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I Am...


I am . . . busy
I think . . . that I am incredibly lucky
I want . . . very little
I have . . .SO much!
I miss . . . my dad... every day
I fear . . . that something will fall through the cracks
I feel . . . blessed
I hear . . .Jeff talking
I smell . . .the conditioner I just used
I crave . . . sleep
I cry . . . rarely
I search . . . for answers
I wonder . . . where I'll be in a year
I regret . . . nothing
I wish . . . I had more time
I love . . . my family
I care . . . too much
I always . . . plan
I worry . . . about my son
I am not . . . perfect
I remember . . . almost everything
I believe . . . that people are both intrinsically good AND bad
I know . . . mine is not a boring or typical life
I sing . . . loudly and badly
I don't always . . . take the high road... but I try
I argue . . . because I'm Italian
I write . . .to heal myself
I lose . . .time
I listen . . . to the sound of laughter in my home
I can . . . do anything I put my mind to
I need . . . to be more patient
I forget . . . what I've forgotten!
I am happy . . . period.

A rant


I'm not usually one to post on political topics, frankly, my beliefs are my own and yours belong to you. I assume that you have a reason for believing the things that you do and I respect that- even if I disagree.

I am a mother, a daughter, a sister, a fiance, and a former member of the law enforcement community. But it's the first thing and the last of those things that I am that have driven me to say something today.

I had to fight, really fight to be taken seriously in the profession I chose. There are women in federal law enforcement, but there aren't many. Initially I had to swallow my words and get the coffee I was asked to fetch, I had to deal with co-workers that treated my presence as a hindrance to their jobs. I had to earn my badge, ten times over my male counterparts.

But I earned it. I worked harder, I sweated longer, I fought longer, and I earned the respect of the men that I worked with. I became one of the boys, and that' something that I'll always be proud of.

I am also a mother. I take that responsibility very seriously. I believe that when we become parents, when we make that choice, we are agreeing to put the lives of our children above our own desires. We are agreeing to always do what is in their best interests. Even if it wouldn't necessarily be our first choice. I have a son. I left law enforcement because I felt that there were other ways for me to pursue my professional goals without putting my life on the line. He deserves to have a mother there. Really there. At ball games, on Halloween, and every day in between. Does that mean I believe that we have to totally give up our own sense of self? Our own goals? No. I don't mean that. But I believe that there should be a balance, and that the balance should always swing in the favor of our children.

I vote independent. I make up my mind on the candidates and on the issues, I never have and never will vote strictly on party lines.

All of that being said, I am deeply offended at McCain's choice for Vice President. Deeply offended.

I want to see a woman take a seat in the highest offices that this country offers. But she has to earn it. It doesn't count if it's just handed to her. In fact, it works against everything that women everywhere have worked so hard for. It sets us back. All of us.

I'm not going to argue Mrs. Palin's achievements in her own state. I'm sure she's done a good job. But lets be real here. Alaska's total population is less than 700,000 people. We have over 300,000 people in Madison County alone! She was essentially the leader of a medium sized city.

And now she could find herself in the role of President. 

She has not earned it. There is nothing in her education, training, or past experiences that could've prepared her for this job.

And by the way. She has a four month old baby with Downs Syndrome.

I've been very close to a family for over twenty years that has a child with Downs. In fact, Stephen was one of my first baby-sitting jobs. And I can tell you first hand that they need all of the attention and care that both parents can provide. As a mother I just don't see how she can accept a job with the responsibilities that this one does, with the potential responsibilities that could come of it. She can have it all, but she can't have it all at the same time. No one can.

I'm just sick about this. As a mother, as a former Special Investigator, and as a voter.

I am deeply offended.



A Silly Survey at the request of a friend


What time did you get up this morning? 5:00 am
Diamonds or pearl ? diamonds
What was the last film you saw at the cinema? I honestly can't remember 
What is your favorite TV show? I don't really have one, though Jeff and I have been watching the stupid criminal shows a lot lately
What do you usually have for breakfast? I usually don't eat breakfast.
What is your middle name? Michelle
What food do you dislike? Squash, Okra
What is your favorite CD at the moment? I dunno.
What kind of car do you drive? Saturn SC2 (I love it!!)
Favorite sandwich? Grilled bologna & cheese with mayonaise
What characteristic do you despise? Ignorance
Favorite item of clothing? Blue jeans!
If you could go anywhere in the world on vacation, where would you go? Florence or Ireland
Where would you retire to? Here
What was your most recent memorable birthday? Ummmm 32 - my family is crazy!
Furthest place you are sending this? Good Question! The internet really isn’t “far”. ;~P
Person you expect to send it back first? Probably no one, I’m the only idiot who takes the time to answer these when I really don’t have any time in the first place.
When is your birthday? Sept 27 
Morning person or a night person? Is it possible to be both? I think I’m both. I stay up late and get up early.
What is your shoe size? 8.5
Pets? Just 2 fish but wanting a Bernese Mountain Dog!
Any exciting news you’d like to share with us? Ummmm Not yet
What did you want to be when you were little? A journalist
How are you today? OK, a little hot, I just came in from working outside
What is your favorite flower? I love them all!
What is a day on the calendar you are looking forward to seeing? December.
What are you listening to right now? Nothing
What was the last thing you ate? Half of a canteloupe
Do you wish on stars? I do, but age taught me that I’m responsible to making those wishes come true.
If you were a crayon, what color would you be? Cornflower blue
How is the weather right now? Sunny and warm
Last person you spoke to on the phone? Jeff
Favorite soft drink? Diet Pepsi
Favorite restaurant? China Cook
Favorite color? Blue
What was your favorite toy as a child? I don't recall
Summer or winter? SUMMER!!
Chocolate or Vanilla? Chocolate
Coffee or tea? Coffee
Do you want your friends to email you back? always
When was the last time you cried? Don't recall
What is under your bed? Actually, nothing. Maybe a stray toy from the boy
What did you do last night? Worked out and hung out with the boys
What are you afraid of? Bugs on my tomatoes
Salty or sweet? Um... yes!
How many keys on your key ring? 7
How many years at your current job? Job? What job? :~P
Favorite day of the week? Friday!
Do you make friends easily? Yep, always have
How many people will you send this to? The world! ;~P
How many will respond? Probably no one... this one is awfully long!

For Allenb


1. name: Andria
2. birthday: September 27
3. place of residence: Alabama
4. what makes you happy: my family
5. what are you listening to now/have listened to last: Jeff talking :-)
6. do you read my lj: um... yeah, when I have a chance to.
7. if you do, what is particularly good/bad about it: it's real. It's just you, and that makes it very good.
8. an interesting fact about you: Interesting to who? :-)
9. are you in love/have a crush at the moment: Yep
10. favourite place to be: with my family
11. favourite lyric: I prefer instrumentals
12. best time of the year: Early summer

13: Post the most recent picture of yourself: I'll have to look for one

RECOMMEND
1. a film: whatever is on
2. a book: Jonathan Livingston Seagull
3. a band, a song and an album: whatever is on. Lately I've been listening to The Blood of Cu Chulainn by Jeff Danna when I'm in the car. For some reason it brings to mind the journey that Jeff and I have found ourselves taking. It makes me smile.

PLUS
1. one thing you like about me: your legs! HA! And your sense of ethics. You're very honorable.
2. two things you like about yourself: My brain and my eyes- they change colors. I have two of them. :-)
3. put this in your lj so i can tell you what i think of you

Boosted from Allenb


The Maid of Honor

Deliberate Gentle Love Master (DGLM)

The Maid of Honor

Appreciated for your kindness and envied for all your experience, you are The Maid of Honor.

Charismatic, affectionate, and terrific in relationships, you are what many guys would call a "perfect catch"--and you probably have many admirers, each wishing to capture your long-term love. You're careful, extra careful, because the last thing you want is to hurt anyone. Especially some poor boy whose only crime was liking you.

We've deduced you're fully capable of a dirty fling, but you do feel that post-coital attachment after hooking up. So, conscientious person that you are, you do your best to reserve physical affection for those you respect...so you can respect yourself.

Your biggest negative is the byproduct of your careful nature: indecision. You're just as slow rejecting someone as you are accepting them.

Your exact female opposite:

Half-Cocked

Half-Cocked

Random Brutal Sex Dreamer

Always avoid: The False Messiah (DBLM), The 5-Night Stand (DBSM), The Vapor Trail (RBLM), The Bachelor (DGSM)

Consider: The Gentleman (DGLM), someone just like you.

Link: The Online Dating Persona Test | OkCupid - free online dating | Dating

May. 13th, 2008


Well, we put it off as long as we could, but with gas prices being what they are, economically it just didn't make sense to keep the Expedition any longer. The Green Beast is gone!

In it's place is this:


Meet our new 2007 Prius Touring (aka: Roz)



We really drug our heels on this particular decision because neither of us particularly like the way the car looks. How pathetic is that? But we made the decision a couple of months ago that it just didn't make sense to get anything else. We made a list of options we wanted the car to have (for instance, we wanted a touring model), the color we wanted, the extras that were important to us and we started looking. 

Boy were we surprised to find that these cars are in such demand that they simply cannot be found out here! 

Until last Thursday. 

We drove to Tennessee to look at it late Saturday night. We took care of the financing online on Sunday, and we drove back to Tennessee yesterday afternoon and picked it up. It was exactly what we both wanted in a car. Down to the color and the tint!

Did I mention we got a phenomenal deal on it? We paid about $8000 less for the car than it should have cost.  And all because we knew the deal better than the dealer did. He had to go to Florida to get this one (that's how rare they are) and apparently didn't realize that it takes Kelly Blue Book about three months to catch up to changes in the market. YAY us!

Anyway, we averaged close to 60 mpg on the way back from Nashville (we stopped there for dinner), and only used a gallon and a half of gas. Did I mention that the car recognizes its owner? Yep. you don't need a key to unlock the door or start the car. You just push a button! How cool is that?? It even has a rear view mounted camera with night vision to help you back up more safely. Everything is handled on a touch screen monitor on the dash- the audio (with a 6 disk changer), the climate control stuff... everything! You also have the option of taking care of everything from the steering wheel so you don't have to take your hands off the wheel.

I'm totally in love with this car! 

We've decided to put the necessary $1000 into my car that it needs (new tires, brakes, timing chain, water pump) and funnel more money into paying off the Prius early. We think we can have it paid off in about two years. At that time, we'll probably just get another one and save the Saturn for Michael to drive. He's about to turn twelve... he'll be driving in no time!

Needless to say, we're totally stoked about this awesome car!

I Just Have to Say


 That I am totally and completely amazed by Jeff. This past year has been a hard one for both of us, largely due to our having to take menial jobs to get by. Until about a month ago he worked at the Jones Valley Target running the dairy department. It was a crappy job with horrible hours and for very little pay.

But he never gave up. Every morning he'd get up, get ready, and go back for more.
He did it every day for ten months and through it all, never stopped giving it his all. It's one thing to go in everyday, it's another to do a fantastic job in a job you loathe. He was so highly regarded that the District Manager kissed his ass and he earned the employee of the month award. For the District. 

Anyway, it's an easy thing to hate your job and feel mistreated. It's even easier to give up and do nothing, or do it half way and whine about the unfairness of it all. But he didn't do that. And that amazes me.

A month ago he finally was able to give his notice and return to a real job. He's now the Operations Manager for an entertainment type company here in town. He's directly under the owner in terms of authority and also is responsible for offices in Tennessee, Mississippi, and soon to be Georgia. They handle big names like Brad Paisley if that gives you a better idea of the responsibility of this new job. He's got over 100 employees that answer to him, lots of room to make improvements and a kick ass bonus package. 

This job is everything that he's worked his life for. Everything that he's ever wanted, and I'm SO proud of him. Sometimes, hard work really does pay off!

All About the Boy:


How long did you date? We''re still dating, but not for too much longer! 

How old is he?
39 

Who eats more?
He does most of the time. He tends to only eat one meal a day so it's usually pretty good sized. I eat more frequently, but less. 

Who said “I love you” first?
He did, but I was right behind him. 

Who is taller?
He's a full foot taller than me. 

Who sings better?
No contest, him. There was a reason that I spent the first part of my life as a musician! 

Who is smarter?
This is probably a pretty close one, but I would have to say it depends on the subject matter. We tend to balance each other out. He's the first guy I've ever met like that. 

Whose temper is worse?
Hmmm... that's a tough one. We both have tempers like a flash fire. It takes a lot to make us truly angry, but once we are, we both have to confront whatever it was that made us angry in order to move on. It's not pretty, let me tell you!

Who does the laundry? I do most of it now that I am home more often, but he's always willing to help out when I need it.

Who sleeps on the right side of the bed? He does. I sleep next to the alarm clock since I have to get up earlier than he does.


Who pays the bills?
He does. He's great about it too, I can't ever seem to remember to do stuff like that. It really helps that he's very OCD about it. We share decisions about how money is spent though, in that we're very equal. 

Who cooks dinner?
It's 50/50. It really depends on our work schedules. He's a much better cook than I am, but I do the sweet stuff better. 

Who drives when you are together?
It depends on where we're going. The longer the drive, the more likely it is that I'll drive. My car gets twice the gas mileage that his truck does. It just makes sense to conserve where we can, especially now.

Who is more stubborn?
It's a tie. He's Scotts-Irish, I'm Italian. You decide. :-) 

Who kissed who first?
I think I kissed him first, but it was more like a hello greeting between friends. If you're talking about a "real" kiss, he did. He definitely isn't shy when he wants something! 

Who is the first to admit when they are wrong?
We actually do that very well. It's a tie. 

Whose parents do you see the most?
My mom, but that's not saying much. His mom and dad are in Canada right now! 

Who proposed?
He did. But only in a round about way at first. The first time we were really separated he had to go to Michigan to visit his family and help his sister with something. When he got back, shoot, I think maybe even before, we started planning our wedding. I think we discussed the guest list and attire before anything else. I remember hanging up the phone and thinking to myself "did he just say that he's going to wear a kilt at our wedding"? LOL 

Who is more sensitive?
It's about the same. 

Who has more friends?
I have no idea.

Who has more siblings? We each have a 'Chris' that's well... a Chris!

Who wears the pants in the family? We share most of the decisions. Whoever has a strong opinion about something usually leads. I trust his judgment and if I don't have an opinion about whatever it is, I follow his lead. If I do, and he disagrees, we discuss it and find a compromise. It's a partnership.

Ladies, if you need to talk about your boyfriend or hubby, please do! They deserve all our attention for putting up with us and taking care of us. I have said more than once that I don't know how I got such a great guy, but I am so thankful that I did. Even when we don't agree, he still makes my day. 

HA!!